What if it started with me…

Musings and perspectives on the self…

What we have in us is all that we can truly give.

We do not have the ability to give to another what we do not have within ourself.

Whatever we give to another should never be more than we are willing to give to ourself. It’s an act of balance and self-care.

We must first feed ourself before we feed anyone else. A hungry man cannot make another man full.

There is nothing we ‘should do’, there is only what we did do. What ‘should be done’ never gets done.

If we live only in the dark, the light will blind us; If we live only in the light, the dark will blind us.

Loving someone else more than ourself is only possible in our mind, not in our heart. Mothers may refute this.

We do not exist because of someone else, we exist despite everyone else.

We are far more than we think we are and give ourself credit for. Looking back on many of the experiences we have lived will confirm this. We have been more resilient, more helpful and more knowledgeable than we expected of ourself.

Everything we hate about ourself is something that demands more of our attention and understanding. Everything we love about ourself is a gift.

Every day of life we have accumulated and survived so far, as an individual, has been our conscious and unconscious contribution to the human story. The story of humanity is a part of every story, even if most will never see or know of us as individuals.

If we cannot love ourself unconditionally how are we to be able to love another? What kind of love are we giving? Can we give more love to another than we give to ourself?

In the end: If you have the ability and willingness to give, you must find the capacity and willingness to receive in kind.

Work in, then workout. Love within before you give out.